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What’s a Date Bar That Doesn’t Scream, ‘I’m Trying Too Hard?’

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I'm looking for a great spot for a second date — the type of place youd go to with someone after you know that youre into them and theres a vibe. Something with a relaxed environment but also a little sexy (maybe it’s dimly lit? maybe theres a lot of red wine, or something?) but doesn't feel like it's trying too hard (AKA the impression I would like to give off on this date, too). West Village is preferred, and ideally its a bar with some snacks so that no one gets too drunk.


Date Night Dilemma

Hey Dilemma,

Congratulations on a second date, no easy feat in this city’s dating landscape, as I’m sure you’ve learned. I totally get what you mean about a second-date bar: It’s somewhere that’s noticeably quieter than the first date bar, moderately romantic, and all about the lighting. The place that checks all these boxes and solves your issue is Dante on MacDougal Street.

Bonus points if you secure the bar seats in the corner

Plan to meet your date here around 7 p.m., when you’re sure to get two seats at the bar. There are actually two bars to choose from, but I would go with the one that’s to the left after you enter — it’s cozier and more secluded than the first. This space is fairly unchanged since it opened as a cafe more than 100 years ago, but now there’s A-plus, date-y lighting, and old photographs on the walls in addition to the cozy corners.

Since Dante is number 34 on the World’s Best Bar list, I’d also recommend beginning with a cocktail before you and your date move on to a bottle of wine, starting at $41 a bottle. Dante’s specialty is negronis, and a chat with one of the friendly bartenders about which variation to get will ease any and all date jitters you may be having.

As for snacks, there are plenty of options here like tartare, charcuterie, flatbreads, and a ton of vegetables for sharing. And the kitchen is open late, so there’s no need to rush the date.

Go get ‘em!


Caffe Dante

79 Macdougal St, New York, NY 10012 (212) 982-5275 Visit Website

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